Time Well Spent...

I restore myself when I'm alone...

Spend some time alone every day.  Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values...

I have never been one who was afraid to be alone or to go out by myself.  Granted it is always nicer to be two, but I also always enjoy my outings when I am on my own.  It gives me a time to reflect and to just go at my own pace, to enjoy what I like and just do the things I want for a change.  It's very refreshing and invigorating.

Arvid and I both enjoy so many things together.  Occasionally one of us may enjoy  something more than the other, but the key here is to compromise.  He loves the Blues... I like the music, but he is a true lover of it.  
We both like the movies, but not always the same ones.  He likes action mainly.  I enjoy a variety.  One being super hero movies which for him is a bore, so just a few weeks ago when he was not home I took it upon myself to go all alone and see something which would normally not be seen if we had to go together.  Also had some of the day to go out and enjoy the company of my girlfriend.

Very relaxing and a little change from what we normally do together.  I see nothing wrong with it, and as long as I I don't stay out too late (as Arvid puts it) it's safe for me to go out alone when he's not home.  Arvid is very concerned about my safety.  He says he worries that I will get into trouble he says, "you talk to everyone"  I do enjoy chatting with just about anyone.  Does not matter who it is.  Always something interesting to learn.

Arvid was not too happy when at Buddy Guy's Club we met an artist, and soon we were chatting away.  The first thing I said to the man was, "you look a little tired.  Your eyes are very red."  Seems it was the wrong thing to say.  Oh well...

Another time I tried to offer a ride to a lady who lived close by.  She did not know me, but I use to see her all the time walking her dog.  I approached her and asked he if she would like a ride home.  She had lots of grocery bags and always walked.  She just looked at me and before she could answer I said to he, "I see you all the time."  Wrong words again.  As Arvid later told me she probably thought I was stalking her.  The lady made some excuse and took off.  I just was being considerate...

It seems like today one has to be very careful what is said and done.  I still have to learn this.  Arvid says everyday with me he lives on edge because he never knows what will come out from my mouth.  Arvid is always trying to tell me to be careful what I say, because it might have an unexpected effect.  Maybe he's right...maybe will try to be more careful.

In need of some distraction , we went to see Madagascar 3 Europe's Most Wanted.   A few laughs, a drink before the movies and we were all set to have a good time.

movie time

I love being with Arvid and doing things with him, but sometimes I also enjoy time spent alone.  I also encourage Arvid to have alone time, but he always says he does not like doing stuff without me.

Either way, whatever we do we always enjoy.
Arvid's mom is still in the hospital in Norway.  Being this far is right now terrible for him.  Maybe a little music tonight will be good, at least that what he says and tickets to see Walter Trout were just bought.  The worst thing right now is not knowing what is wrong with her...Fear & anxiety is based on not knowing whats next...

Hoping always for the best.
Have a good Friday all!

It's often just enough to be with someone. I don't need to touch them. Not even talk. A feeling passes between you both. You're not alone.

until next time...

Nadiya