When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free...
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| life is good! |
How many of us have not at one time or another held a grudge against another person be it for whatever reason? I am no exception to that....but as get older I have learnt that the only person this really affects is the person holding the grudge. Many a times the other person has no clue that a "problem" even exists.
Many a times the reason we hold a grudge is because we are insecure of ourselves...but I have learnt a long time ago that nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. Self
confidence is something that comes with age and experience.
I have learnt that forgiving someone makes life so much easier..forgiving does not necessarily mean we forget, but at least it means we can move forward and concentrate on things that really matter.
Lots of my topics are inspired by real life people and by things I see on TV that are also real life issues. The other night I saw a program where the underlying theme was a grudge that lasted so long and in the end neither parties were able to tell the other what was really in their hearts. It was a family matter...at the end of the show one died and the other was left with regrets....what a terrible feeling that must be. If only....those must be the two saddest words in the world.
I have learnt to live without regrets and the times I have made mistakes (too many to count), I have learnt to say I am sorry and really mean it. I have learnt it is better to be friends and have a relationship of some kind than to later look back and say...if only I had done things differently... With each day I continue to learn more and more....
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Today I say to you also...don't live holding a grudge because one day it might be too late. I have no regrets in my life and not because I have not made mistakes. I have and too many to count. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person...this does not mean that there have not been moments in my life I wouldn't have lived or done things differently....hard times builds a persons character and shapes their lives forever...be it good or bad.
I would much rather have regrets about not doing what people said, than regretting not doing what my heart led me to and wondering what life had been like if I'd just been myself...
until next time...
