If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought...
Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us...
Last night I saw a show on TV that left a too vivid impression on me. Can't get over people's behaviour.... as a result, I have been awake since 3am and as many of you know that's the perfect time for hundreds of thoughts running through your mind. Laying in bed I have been thinking of so many different things and one in particular is about rifts/disagreements among people and wondering why? what's the reason? Obviously there are hundreds, but a common theme that has been playing through my mind is simply 3 reasons...
1. JEALOUSY, sometimes defined as the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values. We have all gone through some sort of jealousy at some time of our lives, as a much younger and insecure woman many years ago I went through this phase, but as time went by and I matured I learnt that it is OK to be a little jealous as long as that jealousy does not consume you all day long to the point where you become a very angry, hostile and down right mean/nasty person. Then that is no longer just your typical jealousy...it has now become some kind of obsessive hatred/jealousy....
Jealousy often consists of a combination of presenting emotions such as anger, sadness, resentment and disgust. I do believe that some sort of jealousy is OK, actually normal. It begins from the time we are kids and it is a very common human emotion, but like I said when it is taken to extreme measures it becomes a very horrible trait. It consumes some to the point this is all they think about...common signs of jealousy are:
Fear of loss
Suspicion of or anger about a perceived betrayal
Low self-esteem and sadness over perceived loss
Uncertainty and loneliness
Fear of losing an important person to another
Distrust
Longing
Resentment of circumstances
Ill will towards envied person often accompanied by guilt about these feelings
Motivation to improve
Desire to possess the attractive rival's qualities
Disapproval of feelings
We have all been guilty at some time also of feeling many of these...but the problem lies when we cannot move on and see beyond them. Our lives can lose focus and sooner or later these negative thought will consume a person to the point that they cannot function as "normal" any longer. This obviously would be an extreme case.
Envy is a symptom of lack of appreciation of our own uniqueness and self worth. Each of us has something to give that no one else has...
1. JEALOUSY, sometimes defined as the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values. We have all gone through some sort of jealousy at some time of our lives, as a much younger and insecure woman many years ago I went through this phase, but as time went by and I matured I learnt that it is OK to be a little jealous as long as that jealousy does not consume you all day long to the point where you become a very angry, hostile and down right mean/nasty person. Then that is no longer just your typical jealousy...it has now become some kind of obsessive hatred/jealousy....
Fear of loss
Suspicion of or anger about a perceived betrayal
Low self-esteem and sadness over perceived loss
Uncertainty and loneliness
Fear of losing an important person to another
Distrust
A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity...
2. ENVY, not to be confused with jealousy. Envy consists of :
Feelings of inferiorityLonging
Resentment of circumstances
Ill will towards envied person often accompanied by guilt about these feelings
Motivation to improve
Desire to possess the attractive rival's qualities
Disapproval of feelings
We have all been guilty at some time also of feeling many of these...but the problem lies when we cannot move on and see beyond them. Our lives can lose focus and sooner or later these negative thought will consume a person to the point that they cannot function as "normal" any longer. This obviously would be an extreme case.
Envy is a symptom of lack of appreciation of our own uniqueness and self worth. Each of us has something to give that no one else has...
Least but not last is
3. MONEY, I will be the first to say that money makes your life more comfortable, much easier to do the things you like and it gives you a kind of status be it good or bad. Having money has it's merits, but at the end of the day as Bob Marley said to his son Ziggy Marley just before dying. "money can't buy you life" I have seen the good money can do and I have seen the other side as well. It's good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it's good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven't lost the things that money can't buy...
There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative....
To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are...
until next time....
